Love Tells You, You Can

The word NO is not a part of my vocabulary . . . because there is always a solution!


#HappyHumpDay!!! Today is a time to rejoice, be grateful, and, if you have not done so already, make your plans for the weekend. Yippy!!! I am truly thrilled and excited that I am working for SELF, because the stress and all my awesome talent are now being funneled into my business. Plus, I get to stay up late, be a grown-up, and watch movies like Too Big To Fail on repeat, like 5 times. This movie is the cousin to The Big Short, which I watched a zillion times. Why? It’s mind-blowing to me that the “people who Wall Street screwed” (homeowners), who made them very wealthy, are the same people who were forced (they did not have a say-so in the decision) to bail them out. That’s not Democracy, that’s called Capitalism, which has fueled my PASSION relentlessly. I am truly grateful that those two amazing movies have confirmed my desire to ALWAYS WORK FOR SELF.

Any who, I’m getting sidetracked…

I came across this awesome song while watching Billions on Showtime; another hit series!!! What drew me to Joss Stone‘s song were her lyrics . . .

Don’t tell me that I won’t, I can
Don’t tell me that I’m not, I am
Don’t tell me that my master plan
Ain’t coming through, yeah
Don’t tell me that I won’t, I will
Don’t tell me how to think, I feel
Don’t tell me ’cause I know what’s real
What I can do

If you don’t learn anything else in life, please learn one of life’s valuable lessons: You are the architect of your life and dreams. Only you can make improvements, or changes, in our life. You can get help from others, but you are the conductor of your train and you have to get it to run. I truly believe that God created the Internet so ordinary people can make a difference in their own lives. Millionaires become Billionaires because they figure out ways to always reinvent themselves that garner more wealth based on an IDEA. All it takes is an idea and, sometimes, without any capital, the Internet (I have yet to figure that one out). However, I continue to forge ahead, stay focused, and execute, execute, execute!

You can do it . . . you just need to take that first step toward your future!


Love is a Life Line

“Love is a healer, comforter, soother, listener, encourager, embracer, a friend, a lover of self, a giver of positive energy; but most importantly… LOVE does not judge, but uplifts and brings forth your BEST!”


During my darkest of hours, when I’m being tested on all levels from not having a current, steady cash flow, creditors calling, mortgage to pay, etc., I aim to remain grateful in my heart that today is a new day, a new life and beginning… and I am feeling good.

Should I sulk and feed my spirit with despair, unhappiness, and defeat–making my current situation worse? Heck no!!! I don’t know about you, but I hate feeling gloomy, sad, or hopeless. When you view your situation from a dark or negative place, or if the window that you are looking out of always seems to be covered in smut or dirt, it can corrupt your thought process, and the end result makes you feel even worse.

It is possible to see the light at the end of the tunnel, even when you have decided based on a defeated mindset that you already lost. Life doesn’t have to be about being defeated on a daily basis, or being told every day that you or your opinion don’t matter. Life can be about accomplishing what brings you joy: it might be landing the dream job, being a great parent, or assisting a friend who is in need. Whatever the outcome, even when darkness looms, you can always try to aim for a happy ending.

That is why it is very important to eliminate negative energy or people from your life who constantly tear you down, making you feel lousy and like a loser. This energy, and these negative people, can literally hold you back; especially from accomplishing dreams, believing that you do matter, and nurturing your aspirations. All it takes is embracing the darkness for what it is, accepting its existence, and then letting it go–either from your life entirely (negative people/places) or by simply expressing an air of gratitude (for surviving!) once the darker emotions have been processed.

Kudos to ALL the people who were told NO or were hampered by an unhealthy childhood, or were told that their beliefs were nonsense and a waste of time, yet continued on in their dreams, even if the support was just not there.

Here are a few who ignored the nay-sayers and accomplished greatness:

  • Ludwig van Beethoven was deaf. But is regarded as one of the greatest composers of all time.
  • Oprah Winfrey had a fairly traumatic childhood, and now she’s a prominent philanthropist and businesswoman.
  • J.K. Rowling was on government assisted living; she wrote a series of popular children’s books and become one of the richest women in the world!
  • Bill Gates’s first business failed.
  • Stephen King’s first novel was rejected 30 times.
  • Kris Carr turned her cancer into a business of hope and healing.
  • Jay-Z couldn’t get signed to any record labels and created his own.
  • Vincent van Gogh only sold one painting in his lifetime.
  • Simon Cowell had a failed record company.
  • Charlize Theron witnessed her mother kill her father.
  • Steven Spielberg was rejected from USC, twice.

Know your worth and know that ONLY you are the game changer in your current situation, and you don’t want to leave it to chance at the hands of a nay-sayer (a.k.a., a wolf in sheep’s clothing).

“Count your blessings… because someone, somewhere is worse off than you!”


Love’s Conviction

“The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved.”


Ok, I’ll be the first to say that I have been truly loved; not once, not twice, but three times. Yes, and I’m great… but lack in the areas of keeping and holding onto love. I have yet to learn the secret of sustaining a “loving” relationship; but what I do know for sure is that LOVE never wants you to die of SELF to make someone else happy.

Nor does LOVE want you to sacrifice SELF for the sake of someone else’s happiness. Remember, I believe in Accountability and any successful relationship requires both parties making sacrifices. Is it, truthfully, “by choice” that you are the only one in your relationship making ALL the sacrifices? It is very likely there is someone out there, reading this right now, and realizing they are not such a happy camper.

That’s where LOVIN SELF comes into action and helps you realize your true worth. Life was not created for you to not matter, au contraire; at the very least to yourself. Every human being has a purpose and the ability to put a dent in the universe (Steve Jobs).

My purpose in life is to share joy from my light within; add a smile daily to someone’s beautiful face; and help you alleviate STRESS from your life (in the simplest way possible, featuring my Lovin Self relaxing bath salts and soothing bath teas).

Remember, you do matter! You are vital to SELF! And, before the weekend is over, PLEASE give yourself a loving HUG. You owe it to yourself.